My ass felt like it was conforming to the shape of my office chair the other day, so I decided to take a walk during my lunch break. It's been really lovely lately, and fresh air always helps me re-focus at work.
I about halfway down the block I hear, "Hey! Girl! *whistle whistle* Hey, Girl! *insert inappropriate, immature language here*"
I, in very colorful language, without giving this guy the satisfaction of even looking in his direction, told him to grow up.
When I was younger, I'd usually blow it off. And you'd think that with age, I'd learn to let this roll off of my back the way I let other things roll off my back. But I got angrier and angrier.
First, what women would actually respond to that? Show of hands? Anyone? Really?! No one would actually walk up to a total stranger acting this way and say, "Take me home with you now, please, GOD!"??? Astonishing. Really. Even if I wasn't with someone who is funny, smart, hot, articulate, and caring, I would never in a million years even think of responding to behavior like that.
Second, what makes men think it's acceptable to talk to women that way? I am someone's MOMMY. Would they want someone talking that way to their mother, to the mother of their children? I'm willing to bet dollars to doughnuts that the answer to that would be 'no'.
Anyway, I would've had to pass back by this guy on my way back, so I had to go out of my way almost 10 minutes just to avoid him. I shouldn't have to do that. No woman should have to be made to feel so uncomfortable that they go out of their way to avoid someone on the street in broad daylight.
It's absolutely amazing to me how many men still obviously view women as second-class citizens. Or property. Or eye-candy put on this earth for their amusement.
And it really upsets me that my daughter will have to deal with this.
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4 comments:
You know I won't be a hypocrite.
I know I still drool when I see a hot guy on the street. I might even make a comment to a friend or under my breath or even in my tiny own mind but I would never approach someone on the street with vulgar comments.
Back in my early 20s I did say to a guy at a bar one night.
"It's 4am and all that's open are restaurants and hotels and I'm not hungry."
Oh..to be a slut again...
I'm sorry you had to deal with it and I'm sorry that our girls will..but there will be idiots until the end of eternity.
My goal? To not raise one..thankfully Kyle is doing a good job as far as I can tell.
This kind of situation is how I've ended up giving the finger to total strangers on more than one occasion. It makes me so angry that I am scared to go walking by myself for exercise on my days off. My husband, my dad...they don't have to worry about stuff like this. But we do, and we have to worry for our friends, our sisters, our mothers. It fucking sucks.
Gah!
You should listen to Bif Naked's "We Women".
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